I know these are not the greatest pictures but you can kinda see what we did. Put names and then everyone cut pictures to match some of their dreams. I had to laugh Malcolm cut out a 190 for the IQ he wants. Trust me he's not far off. But man that would be awesome he definately take care of his mom!
Last week on Oprah (which I very rarely get to watch) she had some people on talking about what you put out there is what you get back. Seriously! Ok I don't know how many of you believe in Fate, Char ma etc. But I do. Her guest wish I could think of their names. All written books let's just say I Know I know that doesn't make them experts. But sounded very much what I believe. If you put negative energy out there you get that back.
Haven't you ever notice if you smile at someone in the store they smile back. Or if someone is that way to you and your having a bad day it makes you think differently? Especially when it is your kids. You know Ok for instance, I wake up grumpy as anything. Walk down stairs and instead of looking at the world and how great things are it is someone left peanut butter and jelly marks on the cabinet from a late night raid from the night before. I know who did it and instantly could do 2 things start yelling at him for not cleaning it up and to an 8 year old it is like dogs don't catch them when they are doing it then they don't remember doing anything wrong. Or shrug it off and clean it up. If I choose the first it starts his day off bad then turns into his siblings and makes my day worse because I will be dealing with fighting all day just cause I chose to yell instead of being grateful to have the messy Marvin!
Lately, I have notice several of my kids being a pessimist and I wanted to fix it. So I decided to take the board I talked about earlier in my blogs "dream board"? and use it in Family Home Evening.
Family Home evening usually go fairly smoothly since everyone is older. But for some reason tonight my two oldest ones Malcolm and Cole were showing their ADHD hats. Oh my heavens I wanted to just muffle them. Eventually they stopped and listened. I gave them Dream list .
I said Alex hearts desires.......... etc. I had Eve print out this with 10 blanks. Explained to them that sometimes in life we have to verbalize what we want and put it out there. Then subconsciously we go after it. It doesn't necessarily mean something they have to buy with money. That was the trick to get them to understand what I was talking about. So we talked about how if you put it on paper or cut out the picture of what you want you are going to make more of an effort to make it happen.
We talked about how to see the glass half full versus half empty. I asked them if when we lived in the " Holey house" if they were happy even with the green shag carpet and all its blemishes. By the way Alex corrected me and told me I should refer to it as the house with holes and not the holey house cause it not a sacred place. Ok! He wins. When I think back about it I loved the house. Green shag carpet and all. Yes it had cracking foundation, a slant so big you put a ball by my sink and it ran down the kitchen to the backdoor. It was in a not so good neighborhood. But we spent lots of time together making memories in that house. When we moved to the apartments I asked if they were mad that we were back in an apartment versus their cousins who were in nice houses. Some said they were jealous others said no because they had a long hallway to play hockey in . And they did. With hockey sticks and all. They nick the wood vinyl. But they loved it. Eventually they understood how when we live some place or have things we should be happy with what God has blessed us with. Instead of looking at what we don't have.
I think maybe I needed this lesson more than they did. In my head I have been running through my head on things I have been pessimistic about. ...
Let me share a little. I kills me that I still drive a car we have to double buckle in. And I have siblings that have a minivan and really don't need it for the space. (sorry guys) Or that I am raising my kids as a single mom and that doesn't seem fair to them.(or me at times) I work 2 jobs to make sure I can pay the bills and have enough to cover school clothes, and any extras that come up. And I am preparing my kids for me to work more on the second job from once a month working 12 hours to work my fulltime job during the week and work the hospital 12-24 hours a week too. Just to make sure we can get the car we desperately need and pay for school things and Christmas. NOW let me change to the good!!! Yes there are days that I feel this way but most of the time I don't. Yes I am raising my kids by myself. But I have 5 wonderful children that God blessed me with and trusted me with. Ok my car well it bites! But it runs! It gets me to my Jobs which I am so thankful for. I am not one of those unemployed people out there. And thankfully the Lord helped me raise 5 kids and put myself through school and Nursing school by putting very SPECIAL people in my lives to help me. And because of that Degree I am able to work that second job which helps me pick up hours to make it through the tough times. I haven't always been blessed with Good health. Even after the Brain Tumor scare last year and Medicine fixed it I thank God for my health. Yes today it sucks but tomorrow I will go back to work and make it through it because God will help me through it. As far as working extra to make sure I have enough for school clothes and Christmas. Who doesn't need to cut out extras to just cloth this many kids for school. Shout with boys wearing size 13 shoes that is by no means cheap. I long for days at target clothes clearance rack....:)
I look at where I am living now. I was blessed to move my family into a safe neighborhood into a beautiful house with a giant yard. I am blessed to have the garage to shove all the junk boxes in until I go through them instead of shoving them in the closet. I am blessed to have a big enough house my mom can live with us and all of us not be on top of each other. I am blessed to have children that I can sit down and teach them about finances that I never learned so that they will be prepared for the real world whether married or single. I am blessed to have so much in my life. I am truly blessed to have the Gospel in my life which I think no I know has been the key to surviving all of this.
This is what I was trying to teach them. By Jones I think they got it! At least for tonight.
Later I will post some of the list they developed. I really just wanted cry when I read some of them. I do know that God willing the next couple of months will be interesting. I am not sure how I will adjust from working days during the week to nights on the weekend. But it will be worth it. I am hoping to have some savings at the end of this.
Sorry I know it has been a long entry. I guess this has become my journal since I am so bad about writing in it this gives a insight to our lives.
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