Oh let me start from the beginning. I said good bye to all my kids except Malcolm to go with their Dad they were suppose to go to the mall and go shopping for Eve's and Alex's birthday with him and his mom. I get a text message at 3:40 or so saying
MOM I'm sooo board> so with this and the spelling I knew it was Sebastian..
the next was
Ok so I asked where they were
What? I couldn't figure that one out... So then I call he tells me that the plans changed. Ramesus informed them after he picked them up that they were going back to granny and popo's house. Which no one was there. hmm and he had a meeting to go to so they could go sit at his meeting and wait for him to finish or sit there. He had only picked them up at maybe 2:30 and it is about a 25minute drive to his parents house. Why not his? There is no phone, not a safe neighborhood and he knew he would lose that fight. Maybe he was trying to trick me.who knows. I told Sebastian I was on my way up there to pick them up. Talk to Eve she confirmed that he wouldn't tell them a time when he would be back. Nothing to eat it would be dinner time soon and no adults to be found. Yes Cole and Eve were there to babysit. But he and I have gone round and round about that. Cole hates to babysit. So it gets left on Eve and they know no one in that area if there was an emergency it would take them 30 minutes to get to them.
So needless to say I jumped in the car with Malcolm and we went to get them. As we pulled up his mom pulled up. I don't even think she knew the kids were there. She looked puzzled. I text Ramesus and told him I was picking up the kids. Because they didn't want to be there. He went into one of his deals and was trying to start a fight over text messages. I am not going to leave 4 kids there when they don't want to be. He just doesn't think anything he did was wrong. What the kids asked was if he had a meeting close to our house why not wait to pick them up until after the meeting so they could continue to play outside and be with me and Cole could have done his homework. Instead of tricking them and taking them all the way back to his parents house.
That is my thought exactly. Ok I got tired of him trying to tell me this and that. He wants to bring up the divorce decree. All of a sudden he gets a girlfriend and he wants to come across like a good dad. Please... He didn't start texting them goodnight until a month ago. Because he got mad that none of them wanted him for something. It had more to do with Malcolm and the fact I had told him you can't wait 15 years to decide to be a dad ... ok anyways. Maybe I shouldn't have but he was driving me nuts and I had decided to take the kids to eat with some money I had set aside. So instead of ruining my night I text back WML. and that was it.
That is a term my kids younger two and my neice Georgah taught me. But parts of it started years ago with my sister Tracy teaching Malcolm Loser...With the L on his forehead with his finger. I know he didn't understand. The kids knew he was texting me over and over and Cole was trying to read over my shoulder. So WML they saw and the older ones are what's that. Sebastian goes WHAT EVER MAJOR LOSER>>>>> Ok not a good mom moment. But what do you do. He tries so hard to pick a fight about stupid stuff. SO that ended it he sent back What? so it couldn't have offended him
Yeah not very Christ like. I failed on that one today....
Now the better part. I took the kids to eat at El Chico's when they were little we frequented there alot.It was a cheap place to eat and they fill themselves up with hot sauce and chips. I couldn't and didn't dare eat much there. But they had so much fun. We made plans for Caroling who they wanted to sing to. etc. Sebastian alone gave me a list of 20 people. 2 were interesting. One was my friend Janet I used to work with at the College he wanted to know if she was back in town. So yes she is I will have to see if I can plan it when she is home. The other.... Jayce...(i think I am spelling it right) Yes this little girl in his primary class that since the ward split she and he have been crazy about each other. She's a cutie. But come on now your 8 can the girl craziness wait? So we decided on treats to make and people to visit. Everyone gets to chose 1 person. I have a couple I will add. So basically we will probably end up with 10 or so. And another night go over into Fort Worth to take some to my Aunt Shirley and cousins.
After dinner we headed home and decided to go ahead and hit the nativity tonight. I wasn't sure if I would make it through everything tomorrow and be back there tomorrow night. I was starting to feel pretty bad. So off we went. The nativity is set up as a community affair but hosted by the LDS church here at our Stake Center. Thousands of Nativities are put on display and they have a scavenger hunt set up for kids to find certain ones. Last year they were taking pictures of the family who dress up in the clothes like the people who were there at Christ birth. Joseph, Mary, angels, Wise men, Shepherds. So the kids complain but end up loving it. I was trying to get out of me being in the picture this year no such luck...
So we had Malcolm as the wise men, Sebastian as a Shepard, Eve and Alex as Angels, Cole as Joseph and me as Mary. I FINALLY got a picture of Cole smiling. YES!!! He said that wasn't fair b/c he was laughing and Brother Butler didn't tell him it was time to take the picture. I agree. I wasn't smiling b/c he didn't count down. Oh well I GOT MY SMILE!!!! This in it self is a gift for me. Cole is a smiler but tries so hard not to smile in pictures.??? I don't understand.
Well we finished there I visited with a couple of people I saw and we headed home. But as we passed the beautiful homes by the church I turned in almost on instinct. We drove the neighborhood looking at the houses and the lights. As we headed home we drove through one other neighborhood that has this house that was suppose to go way out on all the holidays and unless they just haven't finished looked pretty average. The kids were singing and driving Malcolm crazy (he had a headache ) but finally it lightened the mood of him. We got home and I decided even though I should be going to bed that we needed to put out the rest of the Christmas lights tonight on the bushes etc. Yeah this is how we swing... we do the light thing at night every year.I don't know why. We just do. I realize we didn't have enough of the stake thingy to hold the lights around the yard. So in the car with Sebastian, Eve and Alex we went I figured how much could they cost right. YEAH right. I couldn't find them and things have gotten quite expensive so we did what any Mom would do. Improvised I got the hangers for the roof and sat on the ground at each light and pushed the part that would hang on the roof into the ground and clipped the wire into the hanger which now holds the lights up. YES!! It worked. Sebastian at this point was the only one who hadn't abandoned me. Until he decided it was too hard which it was difficult and said I am done. I looked at him and said You can't leave me out here by myself at night.Sebastian looked kinda puzzled... He disappeared and I kept working. I was so afraid if I left it till Monday someone would step on the bulbs and hurt themselves. So next thing I know Sebastian is running around the corner. " WHEW, you still here safe" I smiled as I looked at him. Camo robe over his clothes.
As I finished the lights sitting on the ground he stood and jumped back and forth over the lights. (every time I wondering when he will step on one) I asked him do you remember when you got that robe. "Yes 2005" I was just wondering if he remembered that everyone got one and we were at Grandma J's house. It was the last Christmas we spent with Granddy. I couldn't believe he remembered the year. This robe has held well.Luckily I bought it big. Good use too. He loves it. I think it has a small hole where his tie had been attached and got pulled off or something.
Anyways, we had a good talk and he decided to try again to fix the lights. It was a good teaching lesson b/c he finally got it. And we talked about sometimes it is just practice to get something right and if you give up then you never learn.
We FINISHED!!! Yes. He was so proud of himself. I was too.
We walked to the sidewalk and we looked at our work. "Nice job" he says. We high five and run in to warm up. He runs in and tells Grandma he finished so she could see.
Mom is waiting thinking we are going to have this big presentation but he had disappeared upstairs with the other kids. Grandma really loved it. Which made his day. Our angel is missing some lights but for now it is starting to look more like Christmas.
I sat down to watch a movie and the Sebastian, Eve and Alex gathered to watch it with me. Sebastian now has this thing with sitting in my lap. No big deal except recent surgery and 4 incisions on my stomach. Yeah not so much comfort for me.
Can I just say I let him pain or not how much longer is my 8 year old going to want to sit in my lap. And he is the baby. I will take whatever I can get.
All and All I am paying for over doing things tonight I hurt like crazy. But you know what it was worth it. I have learned alot lately. About myself, my kids and what is really important. It was a good night and Even though things started out rocky with Ramesus conversation I am so glad I let it go. I enjoyed a good night making memories with my kids.
Can I just say I am so blessed. I have some good kids. And they humor me with the little lessons I stick in like after family prayer reminding them to say their personal prayers and how important it is to be on your knees for them. One pops up with I am scared of under my bed. So sit on your knees on your bed ( I so remember those days) I even told them I would sit with them when they do their prayers. As they get older I don't think I remind them like when they were little. So on our knees Sebastian, Eve and I had personal prayers. Sebastian's quick and to the point. Eve's wow she is going to be one amazing mom. Her prayers are so insightful. She has such an amazing relationship with Heavenly Father. I hope I am where she is with him. What about Alex. He sat on his bed on his knees in the same room saying his.
One last thing. HAPPY BIRTHDAY ADAM!!! My nephew turned 12 today. Tomorrow he will be ordained a deacon. Wow sounds crazy. I so remember when he was born. My Eve and Adam are only 13 days apart. No the names were not planned but cute huh. How many families can say they have a Adam and Eve and they are that close in age.:)
Goodnite guys!!!
PS picture of Nativity will follow. I have to scan it still.
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