I need to vent!

Being divorced has advantages but there are big disadvantages. This year Ramesus out of nowhere is changing what we have done the last 8 years. I hate that. Ok for warning I need to vent and this is the best place. So you may not want to keep reading. Just a warning.

Our divorce states that we rotate every year on holidays. But things haven't always worked that way. We have typically let the kids decide. The last time it was his year they didn't go they stayed home. Mostly because I did Christmas and he didn't have money.

This year the Malcolm,Eve and Sebastian don't want to go to their Dad's house. Alex and Cole said they would go.

Whenever he had the kids I would take them to his house around 7 or 8pm on Christmas Eve and they would come home by 1pm.
When I had them I would take them to him on Christmas Day around 1pm.
So this year he decided that he wants me to bring the 3 with me to him at 9am and they stay with him until 8pm
I just so frustrated. He has gone 15 years with little to no interest in the kids. Doesn't pay medical bills, doesn't call the kids, has no clue who they really are and now decides he wants to be difficult. I say difficult because he hasn't taken the kids for their weekend with him in forever.Which is totally ok with them. And when he does take them he leaves them to go do other things. Ugh!

I just want them to have a good Christmas and I absolutely hate they are split up. How bad is that siblings aren't together on Christmas. Malcolm is at the point where he wants to know if he can divorce his dad. Sebastian won't last all night with him. Eve seems to be torn. She wants her dad's affection but wants to stay home.
Cole and Alex seem to be just as pulled.
What do I do. I emailed him back and asked why the change this year. He tends to change things whenever a woman come into his life. And as soon as it is over he is gone again. It is to make himself seem like a good guy.
I think it might be different if every time I trusted him to take care of the kids he didn't cause problems for them emotionally.
I really try hard not to bad mouth him around the kids. I am just ready to scream. He just seems to be trying to get to me. Deep breathe...It is about the kids. right?
I want to tell him he can have Christmas when he pays me for all of Malcolm's medical bills.His half would be ummmm..$15-20 thousand dollars. And that isn't the several thousand dollars i need to pay the cardiologist by Jan.

Ok I will quite now.